My Grandmother

My grandmother. She is one of the few truly good people I have known, and she was also a good Christian-not a hypocrite like so many others who use it for their own purposes. And I know that if I can ask myself at the end of any given day if she would be proud of me and answer "yes" then I have done well. That is what I strive for.

She was born Olive Beauchamp Dry on January 8, 1901, in Stephenville, Texas. Our family descends from the Beauchamps of English royalty but we also had a pirate, which I always thought was more exciting. There is almost no mention of this obvious black sheep of the family, but since I have long felt like our branch were the black sheep of the line, this pirate appeals to me - maybe he is as misunderstood as I am by the family that shut my brother and I out after what our mother did. Maybe they never gave him a chance.

Before we moved to Alabama we spent so many happy days visiting Grandma! Then, I remember my happiness when she left Texas to be nearer to us. My visits with her were spent helping make oatmeal raisin cookies, enchiladas and hamburgers. Those were my favorites, and to this day my kids all love her enchiladas. She would line the the ingredients up on the counter and my brother and I would work a little assembly line. And the hours I spent playing in her yard, making up imaginary games - I now look back and laugh as I can imagine what I looked like as I "galloped" on my racehorse across her yard.

As I got older she was my defense against all that was bad in our lives - my parents' divorce, my mother's rages, her drinking and the parties that she threw for my sister's older friends as she gathered information to feed to the police department. My brother and I were constantly sent to Grandma's house during this time, but I didn't know everything that was going on then, and Grandma's was my favorite place to be anyway.

She only ever cursed once, at least in front of us. My brother and I were picking at each other and bickering. She must have been so tired. She finally uttered, "Oh, hell!", which stopped us both in our tracks and shut us up.

My favorite story about her is one that to this day I can't quite fathom. Thinking of her disobeying even to this day is almost unbelievable. I guess a lot of people feel that way about their grandmothers. But when she was a young girl, about ten, her parents had strictly forbade she and her siblings (she had nine!) from climbing on the roof of the shed. Not only did she climb up on it, but she also slid down its wood shingles. In the process she managed to get a four inch long splinter in her bottom, which she was scared to tell anyone about. After a couple of weeks it was infected and she had to tell her mother what she had done. After they got the splinter out and she healed she got a spanking.

Every night I was at her house she would come in and stroke my hair and sing "You Are My Sunshine". I was the only one she sang it to...

I miss her and I hope I make her proud.